Keeping The love Alive

An astrologer friend of my wife picked the date (July 10, 1984) after analyzing our full name and the dates of our birth. Thanks Manolo, after 25 years I realized your right. hahaha!

Evelyn, my wife doesn’t know how to cook at that time so I did all the cooking. One time while I was taking a bath I heard a loud explosion. I hurriedly went out to check what happened. She boiled a pot of water that dried up and resulted to an explosion sending the pot projecting skyward. It was a good thing nobody was hurt. Just one of many funny incidents we encountered that made our union exciting. We complement each other. I’m on the talkative side and she was the silent type at the start but now it’s the other way around.

The challenging part of our married life was the last quarter of the year 1988 while my wife was pregnant with Melvin. I was assigned as a Store Supervisor in Baclaran. Under a womanizing manager named Charlie.

Charlie’s wife was a very feisty lady that all the staff knew when they had a fight the night before because he would be wearing a long sleeve shirt to cover the fingernail scratches he received all over his body.
He would always ask me to do things for him. To the point of waiting for him in a bar with a woman he was wooing while he was trying to escape from his wife’s tight guarding ( ala Jaworski). He would leave home only clad in undershirt to avoid suspicion. He already prepares a formal wear waiting for pick up at our branch guardhouse. Got the picture?

I almost always arrived home late at night reeking alcohol that led her to suspect me of having an affair with another woman. Our fights became so frequent that made me think of doing it to justify her suspicion. She became the woman I never knew she would become.

We cant stop
The feelings to strong
Weve got the will to hang on
Cant stop
We struggle and fight to survive
Keepin the love alive

Christmas Party, December 31, 1988

I was in high spirit that morning because I have made a promise with my wife that I would go home early for us to be able to attend the midnight mass before eating our Media Noche. I informed my boss of my promise to my wife and to my two children, he gladly gave his consent.

But as Fate would have it, while in the middle of our Christmas Party, my boss was caught by his wife sitting on a lap of a saleslady in a compromising situation inside the office. We all knew what would happen later in their home. My boss would be fighting a losing battle but before he rushed home he assured me to wait for him before going home as I promised my wife. I had no option but to wait for him because our party was being held inside our store. I have lost count how many bottles of beer I was able to consume while waiting for the arrival of my boss.

I felt helpless and quite frustrated I could not contact my wife to explain my side and I knew she wouldn’t believe me. I am a man who always keep my promises but now I felt different under Charlie. So many promises I made were broken because of covering for him.

Was I dreaming?

Two big slaps on the face awaken me that brought me back to my senses. Seeing the face of my wife made me thinking I was home. I was trying to recall how I managed to come home when she immediately ran away. Seeing all the shoes around me made me realized I have slept in our store and my wife came for a visit and delivered those extra hot slaps on my face.
After a few minutes more Charlie arrived telling me how sorry he was and that I could go home and spend my day off.
I arrived home finding all my stuff inside two suitcases. Our door was closed, she won’t let me in and she wanted a separation. I was totally devastated because she won’t listen to my explanation.
This problem was resolved in a week’s time. This was a classic example of a problem that goes out of hand not on your own making but by circumstances beyond your control. We must not let our emotions overrule our mind in making decision. Give your partner the chance to speak up and have an open mind while listening.
Then February 28, 1989 I was promoted and was assigned to handle our Taytay branch. Another problem happened as I wrote here: When my Faith was tested

In all those family struggles of our life I never asked for helped from my in-laws and so did she. I had worked so hard for the financial needs of my family that you can name all businesses with earning potential, I have joined them.

I even became a manager of Tupperware direct selling business in a record time of 1 1/2 month after joining them. The picture at right shows my promotion to Baby Manager. Year 1999!?It was also in this stage that I believed I earned the respect of my in-laws. They are now encouraging my wife to work so that she could help me in raising our family.
Of course I objected because I promised myself that I would do everything for her. For keeping our love alive. For fighting for our love till death do us part as we said in our marriage vow.

She’s now a good cook who could whip up Chinese, Ilokano and Tagalog dishes. Her specialty was mami that tastes like you’re eating at a Chowking Restaurant.

Yes there were temptations in my line of work but my strong belief in the law of karma always reminded me to stay on the right path. “You reap what you sow”. I don’t want any member of my family suffering because of my past sin.

We just enjoy each others company and always do the thing we love to do such as cooking. Being open with each other helps a lot. We never fight over money. We try to solve every problem that comes our way in a more diplomatic way.

There were usual fights like ordinary couple but she never experience receiving physical harm from me. But I remember one time, In my anger I punched our kitchen door made of double plywood. It was so hard that it broke and so did my arm. I never repeated it again. Sakit ata nun!.?

We are now planning to build another room in the ground floor of our home in preparation for the time that we could not climb to our second floor room.?
Old age is fast approaching!

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